I have discovered lately that I have avoided almost all human interaction through all my life because I have not been interested on the subjects people talk in general which are superficial and materialistic things. At the contrary I am a deep thinker and a spiritual person and I find very difficult to talk to people that are not very similar to me, which is perhaps 99% of people. So for almost my entire life I have avoided human interaction instead of finding interaction with people similar to me.As part of my recovery process I have understood that avoiding social interaction was a very important aspect of my social phobia. When I understood my behavior pattern of avoidance I began to recover from social phobia by building a network of people with very similar interest and personality with me.Now I don’t avoid all people I just concentrate my social interaction on people that are similar to me (on interest and personality) and I have been working on increasing that network. This is a network of more than 10 people with whom I interact often with no social phobia. So instead of avoiding all social situations (as I have done almost all my life) I concentrate myself on having a lot of social interaction with the network of people I have been building. This has been one of the best steps on my recovery journey from severe social phobia.

Taken from http://socialphobiarecovery.org/2007/10/social-phobia-with-all-people


have had the same notion about disliking superficial and preferring the deep, but lest this comes across as pretentious, i'll need to clarify this: i'm not one to go on and on about abstract theories or attempt to freud-ize right and left. but i do prefer talking about the mind and the 'inside' as opposed to social stuff. and outside extraverted social happy scene what have yous. and for that reason, i'm not a social butterfly. i don't do clubs, i don''t do parties (often). i don't GO OUT--as they say, period. I AM A RECLUSE.

but yeah, it does get awfully lonely. should follow that guy's plan of action. stop forcing myself into a square hole and start gathering people i know who i can click with around me. like kat, des, ger, lyn, meng, even school friends--shiks and f--even tho i broke off contact with these two wonderful people. PEOPLE I DON'T feel stressed around. ok. that much i ask.no stress with people. people who don't trigger the OMGOMGOMGOMG STRESS FUCK STRESS OMG GONNA BURST STRESS.